tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62013636124367746882012-01-09T21:18:46.228-05:00Because, you know, people ask me this all the time.whyimstillsinglehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17693996066895257467noreply@blogger.comBlogger721100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6201363612436774688.post-69668024019418526562010-11-06T19:01:00.004-04:002010-11-06T20:33:07.151-04:00

by SSI've been meaning to end this blog for awhile now, but not only am I lazy, I haven't really had anything interesting to say about being single since...um...April at least. Judging by my blog. I think I've gotten out my rants and expressed my main fears and concerns. That's it. Life goes on. Sometimes I wish I weren't single and other times I fully embrace it. In the end all I can do is work

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Hello again fellow bloggers, I figure Id post something that came from a Dallas SA rep on facebook. It sparked some interesting comments so I thought I share."Facebook ladys name" is disappointed. Ladies... please be kind when dating a GOOD man. Don't take them for granted & if u decide u need to move on, do it with much compassion. Think about how 2 say things, & be sensitive in ur dealings w/

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by SSI wrote parts of this in my journal quite awhile back. Finally getting around to putting it on the blog. :)Tonight I enjoyed a lovely farewell dinner with friends. For a few moments during our meal, I stepped outside of myself in nostalgia. It was as though the future me was looking back and remembering fondly this last night with dear friends before heading out for good. . . .That had been

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by AGBWell fellow bloggers, I hit some snags in my wonderful new way of life. It cant all be rainbows and fuzzy animals can it? I figured since I was up and not doing anything I would share with you my frustrations at the dating life.Recently I got the Activity card played on me. Not just once but a couple of times. You know your a great guy but your not active enough for me card. I have severe

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By AGB aka ShelbyHello again fellow bloggers. I asked SS to allow me to write my exploits on my continued quest to find that perfect lady. I have to say I have made a break through. No I’m not married nor am I in a relationship. I have arrived at some simple truths. These may be clichéd but they work.First let me tell you about the negative so you understand the positive. I am one of those people

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by SSYeah, it's been awhile. A lot has been going in my life—some good, some not so good. Lately I've made some rather unpleasant realizations about myself. I think I've avoided blogging so I can pretend they're not true. Writing stuff down makes it more real. It makes you responsible for it. And I'm not sure if I'm ready for that yet. But here goes. In part at least.Awhile back I railed on girls

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by SSThat's pretty much all my blog does these days. A few times a week I get a notification about a new anonymous comment providing a link to something I'm afraid to click for fear it will destroy my computer.I think it's funny when bloggers spend half a post apologizing for slacking off on their blog. Really, it's okay. We don't wake up every morning hoping to find a new post from you. Okay,

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by SSSo, as you might have surmised from my last post, I was not the prettiest little girl on the block. I was wretchedly skinny. As in, not the skinny where people are jealous of you, but the skinny where people are genuinely grossed out by you. And furthermore, they are not afraid to tell you so to your face. Not only that, but I grew up surrounded by a culture where having “meat on your bones”

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by SSFor over a month I've been debating whether or not to share this. It's insanely embarrassing. But ultimately I decided that if I can't bring upon myself massive humiliation on an anonymous blog, where can I do it? Plus, I suppose it does sort of tie into my last post about being noticed by the opposite sex.When I was little, one of my greatest dreams was to become a writer. I have long since

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by SSI'm running off to someplace warmer for the next several days and don't know if I'll be blogging for the next week or so. I wanted to leave you with a little something to think about while you're enjoying your turkey.A commenter on this post mentioned that she's frustrated because guys only ever seem to notice how smart she is. Most of them don't take the time to notice any another facet of

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by AFirst off, I feel like I need to defend myself just a little bit - I merely posted my impressions about SS on her blog after our meeting, because I felt it was pertinent for people to know that this woman is not some kind of mess that could never get a date/boyfriend/husband whatever. Seemed like people might want to know a little more about her, and well my impressions were very good - not

anonymousnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6201363612436774688.post-9104823913033053982009-11-18T01:10:00.004-05:002009-11-18T01:31:22.999-05:00

by SSProbably because I suck at it.Don't be fooled by A's glowing review of me. I'm sure most of you have figured this out after reading my blog, but there are reasons I'm still single. While I don't believe that dating quirks necessarily keep a person single, they obviously can making finding someone a bit more challenging.So yeah, I hate dating. I know—I'm not alone in this. But I hate it for

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No, I haven't been running off to meet any more of my guy readers. While I gotta admit it is kind of intriguing to use my blog as a tool to meet men, A was a one shot deal.So remember AGB? (Not to be confused with my co-blogger A that I had lunch with a couple weeks ago. This here is a different guy, AGB, who had done a couple of guest posts this summer here and here. See "Guys of the Blog" side

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by SSI couldn't decide whether or not to blog about this, but after reading Jake's birthday post, I figured why not.Do people ever say something to you that makes you completely reanalyze a past situation? Yeah, I know. I analyze too much. It's what I do.A few weeks ago I met a guy and his brother who were here visiting a friend. Since I also happened to be close to this friend, I ended up seeing

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by SSSo I had another little lunch date while I was out of town last weekend. It was with the guy I mentioned here who doesn't have an acronym yet. I'll dub him SAHD (as in, Stay at Home Dad) although he's neither a dad nor does he stay at home.In case you don't feel like going back and reading the original post (it's okay, I respect your laziness :)), basically he's an old friend of mine who has

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by SSApparently not everyone enjoyed hearing about my rendezvous with A. I, however, am pretty entertained by the fact that I somehow got to meet a cool guy through my anonymous blog. Definitely wasn't expecting that.I do have to admit that I was little nervous about meeting him, though. In fact, I held off telling him that I was going to be in his neck of the woods until almost the last minute.

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Ladies and gentlemen, I have met StillSingle. I told her I was going to write about it, and maybe she will from her perspective too.It was a simple encounter, no big deal, but since she invited me to participate on her blog, I figured if given the chance, I had to take it. I'm SO glad I did.We met at a little Mexican food place and had some lunch. We talked the WHOLE time, which is always nice

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By AI'm waiting to see what happens with Hide and Seek Girl (HSG), to keep with the nomenclature SS has going here on her blog. In the meantime, I am very bored at work today so I figured I'd do a little blogging. I gotta admit, I kind of feel like a girl doing this, but I also have to admit it's kind of fun, so I'll get past the girlie feelings. Anyway, HSG is currently doing her hiding

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by SSI know sometimes it's necessary. Games can get so out of hand that one side or both sides no longer have a clue about the other's intentions. One side may be moving away (or contemplating a move) and it becomes necessary to determine if the relationship should continue. One side or both sides may have concerns about the degree of physicality of the relationship without a certain level of

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The lovely purveyor of this very entertaining blog has been gracious enough to let me play around on it a little bit. And BTW, not to be too flattering, but any of the East Coast LDS guys that aren't lining up to date this girl are idiots. But maybe it's her fault since she seems to dump the nice guys ;-) I guess I'm always kind of amazed at the career girls who can't find a good guy??? I'm a

anonymousnoreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6201363612436774688.post-29674954765870680352009-10-26T08:56:00.000-04:002009-10-26T08:57:54.623-04:00

So, funny story. One of my single guy readers shot me an email last week. Then um, I kinda stalked him on facebook. I thought he looked pretty hot. So yeah—eek—I friended him. Which means now he knows who I am—the only person who knows my true identity! I was scared. But I did it. Because he was cute. (Oh wait, did I mention that part already? ;))So, after several messages back and forth, he has

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JAF and I are totally gonna make it!Tonight he had a first date with a girl he'd been chatting with online. He was really excited/nervous about it all day.Afterwards he texted me saying it went "really well." Even added a smiley face.Sometimes I hate that guys can be so resilient. But other times—like tonight—I love it!

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Why exactly is it so distressing for a guy to shamelessly stare at my chest? I mean, we can all agree it's wrong, right? Even the guys were bashing this douchebag. It's creepy.But the thing is, I kinda like it when I catch a hot guy checking me out in a very subtle way. Key word: subtle. Like when he does it so quickly and discreetly that I almost don't even see it. Especially when he doesn't

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Today I met a new guy at work. I had first noticed him from a bit of a distance—he seemed to be a pretty attractive guy. Eventually he came over and introduced himself.We shook hands.His gaze went downwards.And did not come back up again for about 3 very uncomfortable seconds.Three seconds is a loooonnnggg time for someone to be blatantly staring at your chest. Seriously, count it out. 1. 2. 3.

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One of my readers just wrote a fabulous post à la Carrie Bradshaw in which she compares men to food. Go check it out here!

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So I went back to read all the comments on the Jake/Andrea story and remembered something. In my last post I mentioned that several years ago I had also been dumped for being “too good.” I hadn't thought about it in a long time, but just today I went back and tried to remember how the dumping had actually played out.And then I started laughing. You know how Jake got Andrea flowers the night he

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The blog is getting almost 1000 hits every week now, but I still have no idea who most of you are. Please take 2 seconds to take the poll in the upper righthand corner. I want to know who you are! :) Thanks!

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Have any of you been following the Jake/Andrea story over at Mormon Bachelor Pad? If not, you can go read about the break up here. Too lazy for that? Basically, Jake dumped this beautiful and amazing girl because he felt like she was “too good” for him.In the beginning I thought it was a sweet story because you could tell that Jake really cared about Andrea. But apparently not enough to tell her

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I sort of had a little epiphany today. But I'll blog about that tomorrow.Everyone seems to be pretty opinionated about the JAF situation. I think it makes for an interesting discussion because pretty much all of us have been at one end or the other at least once in our lives.Here are my answers to some of the questions you guys threw out at me. (Although most of your questions weren't really in

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I appreciated all the comments on the last 2 posts. You've given me some stuff to think about.I'm planning on forming a more coherent response to your comments and adding a few more thoughts. But that will have to wait for a work day that lasts less than 15 hours. Today was not that day.I am, however, going to share the text exchange that took place tonight between my guy friend—who will now be

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It's now been over a week since the talk with my friend. By the way, I forgot to mention we also work together. Seeing him everyday has felt a little different, a little awkward. At least for me. In fact, I've kinda put off blogging about it because I just keep hoping things will go back to normal. But unfortunately, I can't really say that they have.I realize it took a lot of courage for him to

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It's ridiculously late right now which means I probably should just go to bed instead of blogging.But. I ended a wonderful day with a good guy friend of mine sitting in the car having one of those awkward car talks. You know you've all had an awkward car talk. The kind that lasts till the wee hours of the morning.Dear friend. Why, why, why do you have to try to change things? We have been good

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I don't plan on ending this blog any time soon. But this would probably wrap it all up.I've been in a few relationships where the guy and I were crazy about each other and the possibility of marriage was openly discussed. For various reasons, however, they didn't ultimately work out. (I decided to go on a mission, for example, and got dear jane'd about a year out. Another love-of-my-life decided

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Remember when I refused to date that much-younger guy?And then remember how some of you got after me for not being more open-minded?Well, an opportunity presented itself for a brief-ish, um, encounter with a guy 7 years my junior. And I took it. Mostly because of his impossibly beautiful and mesmerizing eyes.Also, I don't think he had any idea I was that much older. This is kind of troubling. But

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A reader emailed me with a link to the famous Mormon Scale of Attractiveness. Many of you will have seen this post before, but it's worth a re-read. So go read it and come back!I can't really touch such a perfect post. But I will add this—the longer a Mormon guy stays single, the further up he moves on the scale.Illustration.Sometime last year I ran into a guy that I knew from my ward at BYU. I

whyimstillsinglehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17693996066895257467noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6201363612436774688.post-20157958714505642282009-09-03T19:00:00.005-04:002009-09-03T19:24:17.548-04:00

A few posts ago I blogged about how we want to get the most bang for our buck. I mentioned that, generally, we don't necessarily want the best there is, just the best that we can get. When making a home purchase, for example, if our price range goes up to $250,000, we'll likely try to find the nicest place in that range. If we're feeling really ambitious, we might try to work down a nice home

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. . .were kinda getting out of control. Dear blog stalkers, please note the new side bar for your convenience. :)Real post to follow shortly.

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I know it's taken me forever, but I'm finally gonna respond to the stalking discussion initiated by AGB. (Yes, anonymous guy blogger gets his own acronym now!) First of all, I agree with some of the commenters that the term “stalker” is overused and misused. As S's comment indicated, real stalking can be a dangerous and serious crime. Like other girls I know, I've had an instance or two where I

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Unfortunately, I'm still having the same blogging issues mentioned in the PS of this post. Fortunately, however, my anonymous guy blogger has sent me another post. Here you have it:Now that I am 33 I have had a harder time getting out and meeting Single LDS women. It seems I have hit some invisible barrier and cannot get past it. This has opened up new challenges when it comes to dating. How does

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Remember OS?So the other day I just happened to run into his father. In a freakin' foreign country. And not even the same country where I'd known him and his family before. Seriously, how is this even possible? Totally blows my mind. It's one of those situations where you can't help but wonder if it's more than a coincidence.It was kind of an awkward encounter. I hadn't seen him since I ended

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I've had a couple of interesting emails from one of my male readers so I asked him if he would mind doing a guest post giving a little male perspective. Here is what he had to say:I was asked to write my own personal feeling here in this blog. I feel honored for being allowed to do so, but feel I am just the male half of why I’m still single side of the coin. I think I like to open on my thoughts

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I admit it. I love me some “Bachelorette.”Despite the fact that show is built on a ridiculous premise. (Meet and get engaged in just a few weeks? It's like Provo on crack.)Despite the fact that some, if not all, of the show is scripted.Despite the fact that most of the characters have no personality.AND despite the fact that watching the show is like watching one painfully awkward DTR* after

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I recently got an email from one of my regular non-Mormon readers. (Who always asks the best questions, I might add! :)) She was curious about the phenomenon of women tying their self worth to their marital status. She wanted to know—is it society, Mormonism, or something else?Well, I hope you don't mind, M, but I'm gonna share my response to you with everyone.I see 3 phenomena going on here.

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I didn't start this blog to get all preachy on you. I just wanted to share some ideas, maybe a few stories, point out a few absurdities. But sometimes there needs to be some preaching.I'm not the kind of friend who will quietly pretend to not notice the food stuck in your teeth all night. I'll try to be discreet about it—but you can be assured that I will tell you.What I'm about to say probably

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Duck beach was perfect. To all the naysayers—Duck is what you make of it. I had a fabulous time this year, even though I'm not a big fan of large parties. Great beaches. Great houses. Great friends. Great food. Great memories.I love the beach. I love actually being able to see the stars at night. I love quiet roads with minimal traffic. I love having sand all over everything. I love being

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. . .to being single.As you know, I'm headed off to Duck Beach this weekend. And this marks the beginning of a summer full of traveltraveltravel!Some to other states, some to other continents. Some for work, some for fun. Between now and Labor Day I'll have covered over 20,000 miles. Eat your hearts out, married friends!It's going to be a good summer.PS I haven't forgotten that I need to update

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One weekend, during the whole NEB saga, I took a road trip to a neighboring city with a couple of my roommates. An old guy friend of mine who lived there was having a party. My guy friend had told me that his roommate was a bit of a player. My roommate had also warned me with stories. But I wasn’t concerned because I'm hardly ever attracted to that type. Plus there would be plenty of girls for

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Not that you asked. But I'm going to anyways.Today I re-read my last post and it occurred to me that it kind of sounded like I was leading that guy on just for fun. That wasn't really the case—hence the need for clarification.The truth is that this guy and I had some very unique and fun things in common. We had a lot of stuff to talk about—things that both of us rarely had an opportunity to share

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I am not the type to rush into a physical relationship. I prefer to save physical affection until there is some commitment.A lot of mo-girls I know are the same way. (And a lot are not, but that's another story. . . .) I'm pretty good at avoiding situations that could turn into a hook up. Plus it's usually pretty easy to pick out the guys that are only interested in a fling.But sometimes we still

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You hear it all the time—both inside and outside the mo-community. Women get frustrated with the fact that so many men prefer the younger ladies.A lot of reasons have been given for this phenomenon. Some men find younger women:-more attractive-more energetic-more free-spirited-more baggage-free-more mold-ableThe list probably goes on. And I'm not really here to support or refute these ideas. I'm

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Loudly and publicly proclaiming how long it's been since you've been on a date is never appropriate.Sorry, ladies, I wouldn't bring this up if I didn't see it happen far too often. (And I've seen it happen a number of times just recently.)This is the problem:1. No one knows how to respond to you when you say something like that. Are we supposed to pity you, start guy bashing, what? Because none

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The cliche about single people is that they're single for one of the following reasons:1. They're afraid of commitment.2. They're too picky.I confessed to hating commitment in my very first post. So I guess my confession to being picky is long overdue.So yes, I am picky. But am I too picky? How picky is too picky?I really don't think there's a satisfactory answer to that question.We all know

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A lovely non-mo recently asked me some questions related to the Mormon “pressure to get married.” It got me thinking.I realized that for the past few years most of the pressure I've felt to get married has all come from within myself.My mom used to pressure me a bit when I was a little younger. But ever since I had a good chat with her about it a few years ago, she's never brought it up again.

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. . .feels like this song.You feel it steadily building up for quite awhile. Eventually it gets to be too much and it breaks into something tragic and beautiful all at once. And then you feel better.I realize that you're busy and that this song is almost 9 minutes long. But what can I say? You can't rush beauty. I don't recommend just listening to snippets because then you won't really understand

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I really appreciated Anonymous's comment on Saturday. Good to know I'm not the only one who thinks about/struggles with these things.I'm not really sure why I originally started this blog. Unlike many personal blogs, this blog is not intended to be a means for my friends and family to keep track of my thoughts and activities.On the contrary—I haven't told even a single friend or family member

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Awhile back I was thinking about different people I'd known from different periods of my life. Thanks to fb, I now have the pleasure of knowing that about 98% of them are married with at least one kid. Many are on their second or third. And this includes a number of people who are younger than me.Maybe it's just the proximity of the big three-oh that is freaking me out.You see, the other day

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Most recent date:Guy: So could you ever live in __________? (location which shall remain unnamed)Me *spiritedly*: Nope.Guy *chuckling*: Really? Never?Me: No, I'm being serious. It's not an option for me.Guy: Well what if your husband were to get a job there?Me *without missing a beat*: I'd leave him.At this point we both bust out laughing and the subject is changed.But what I was thinking is: I

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Ultimately, by the time I die, I hope I have given far more than I have received.But honestly. Showers and receptions are getting out of control.I'm a nearly-30 single Mormon girl who has had—as you can imagine—many other single Mormon friends get married since I officially became a “YSA” at 18.This means I have bought A LOT of bridal/wedding gifts in the past 12 years or so.Don't get me wrong.

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. . .with someone who nearly bored you to tears on your first outing?“No, dear blogress, why would you?”Well, what if he's really cute? And has his life together?One part of me says:Why waste another Saturday evening being bored when you know you could find something else to do that's guaranteed fun?The other part says:Another date doesn't mean you have to marry the guy. Just take advantage of

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. . .guys who ask out your voicemail?It kinda makes me wonder—is asking us out in person (or at least on the phone) that intimidating?Or, in our technological age, is this now a socially acceptable phenomenon and those who are annoyed are just being princesses about the matter?And, does it make a difference if the guy is asking us out for a first date or a subsequent date?Just wondering.

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Scariest, most depressing thing I've ever done.I realize internet dating has worked for many people. I don't think the idea is bad in principle. But my experience sucked.I live in a large city where there is a sizable Mormon population. I didn't think I was asking too much to request someone who lived within 100 miles of me and was under the age of, oh let's be really generous, 40.I did the

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I hate to admit that I, like so many other single Mormon girls, have let myself be strung along.It's so easy and pathetic to spot this phenomenon from the outside looking in. Things look a lot differently from the inside, however. We all just know that we're “the exception.”But, of course, we almost never are. That's why it's “the exception.”I was attracted to Non-Exception Boy from the moment I

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Several years ago I did a semester in Faraway Land where there was a small branch of the Church—mostly made up of expats who were there for work.It was my favorite branch I've ever belonged to. One American family in particular was very welcoming. They frequently had me over for dinner and took me out with them on fun excursions. It was a large family—they had 3 or 4 kids with them there in FL

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At least by Mormon standards.I'm proud of myself for going this long in my blog without bringing up politics. I actually hate politics—the games, the power struggles, the insincerity, the hypocrisy. At the same time, however, I love keeping up with what's going on in the world politically—it somehow helps me feel connected to the rest of the world. It allows me to make informed decisions and form

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A friend invited me to a party tonight.When I showed up there were about 20 girls. And 1 guy.I promise I'm not exaggerating. I really thought to myself, “Wait, maybe this is supposed to be a 'girls' night' thing.”It wasn't. Four more guys showed up throughout the course of the evening.

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Oops. I sort of lied in my last post.I do know a guy that is okay with the plan I talked about. We have been friends for years although we no longer live in the same state.A few years ago he tried to take our friendship to the next level. I was heartbroken to have to reject him. But the truth is simple: I don't like him that way. He's fun and sweet and cute. I even think I could kiss him. But I

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And never will be.Yes, I know that a girl doesn't have to be domestic to get married. But, generally speaking, it's harder for such a girl to find a Mormon man who is okay with this. Not impossible, just more challenging.My mom was a SAHM. She got married very young. As a little girl, I always assumed it would be similar for me.As I got a little older, I decided I wanted to do other things before

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Just an observation.As members of a religion that places a huge emphasis on family, being single can be a bit frustrating at times. I mean, no one wants to live their life alone, but I think it can be even worse for us Mormons because it’s always thrown in our faces and most people our age already have gotten married and started having children.I know several girls who frequently complain that

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This doesn't mean what you think it means.I still dress cute and wear makeup. I work out. I bathe.But as far as social activities. . .I do what I want.I stopped forcing myself to go to every fhe and every institute and every ice cream social and every !!TOTALLY AWESOME FUNNEST NIGHT EVER!! theme party of some sort.Now—and for some time—I've been going to only the activities that interest me.

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What's up with newly marrieds creating joint fb accounts?Can any married couples please tell me why you would need a joint account? You both already have your own individual one to keep up with your friends, right? And the wife has already started keeping a cute little blog of your guys' “adventures,” no?So really, there can be no other reason except to tell the world, “Look, WE'RE MARRIED!!!” (

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Why are you still single?ATTENTION NON-SINGLE FRIENDS. This is why you should never, ever ask the question:1. It's none of your business. Period.Not a good enough reason for you? I'll go on.2. There is no acceptable or simple answer to the question.(Scenario 1- Me: “My morning breath is ridiculously bad.” You: “Oh yeah, that sucks. Makes sense now.”Scenario 2- Me: “Well, let's start with my first

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Probably the only thing in life I can commit to is my hatred of commitment. I'm totally committed to hating commitment.Ask me if I can join you for something this Friday. “Uh. . .not sure yet. Get back to me Friday afternoon.” Ask me which hotel we should book for an upcoming trip. “Can't we just wait till we get there and see what's there?” Ask me what I want to have for dinner tomorrow night. “

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