It's ridiculously late right now which means I probably should just go to bed instead of blogging.
But. I ended a wonderful day with a good guy friend of mine sitting in the car having one of those awkward car talks. You know you've all had an awkward car talk. The kind that lasts till the wee hours of the morning.
Dear friend. Why, why, why do you have to try to change things? We have been good friends for 2 years and NOW you want to date me. Oh wait, you've always liked me? WHAT?
A lot of people say that guys cannot be just friends with an attractive girl without having an ulterior motive. Every now and then I think I have a friendship that proves that idea wrong.
And then I realize: Nope, I'm wrong. I give up!
This is so heartwrenching. I don't want to lose my friend.
Sunday, September 20, 2009
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This just happened with me. A guy friend I have known for about 4 years wrote me a letter saying that he likes me and would like to see if the frienship could go any further. He asked me to consider moving to Utah (where he is living) so we could pursue a relationship. I also know if things don't work out I will most likely lose him as a friend. It is sad really, but that's often how those things end up.
Unless you're butt-ass ugly, or he's SUPER SUPER happily married, the guy probably has an ulterior motive.
It's a little easier for girls because we can put appearances aside and focus on the job interview/personality things. But I think girls have at least a SOMEWHAT tricky time being "just friends" with guys they find attractive, just like guys do.
Sadly guys are not able to be just friends. I learned that the hard way, and ended up losing a very good friend. Good luck!
I think you should give him a chance. If you can be friends, isn't there even a slight chance you could be more? I wish I were in your situation...sigh
This is why you're still single... lol
AGB here
Think I may send in my comments on this. Why does it matter that he wants to pursue something more? I guess its the fundamental differences how a guy thinks and how a girl does.
I mean doesn't everyone want to spend their life with their best friend? How much better would that be.
I feel bad for the man. He probably liked you from the getgo and finally he actually told you. This takes alot of courage especially if he isn't understanding your feelings on the matter or worse knows your feelings yet still likes you.
You say you don't want to lose a friend well don't let it! It depends how much you value his friendship. It will be hard but if its worth it you can make it happen.
^ is right. my goal is to marry my best friend. I granted, thats way easier
I said than done. good luck.
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^ is right. my goal is to marry my best friend. I granted, thats way easier
I said than done. good luck.
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I just stumbled on to your blog and got looking around. I must say I love it! As someone who stayed Mo-Single until 25 let me just say, I still to this day get to have the talk with men I have been "best friends" with for 10 years. I still love them and want to see my friends now that i am married, but its too hard for them seeing as they had those feelings all along but never found the courage to tell me! Yeah, it still happens even after your married. Being single is not a curse.. rushing into a marriage with the wrong person can be.
Oh, and when you get married the "why are you still single" question just changes to "when are you going to have a baby"
LOL
Mormons.... the guilt and drama never ends!
Guys can be friends with attractive girls. I have a TON of attractive chick friends (this is my differentiator between a GF and just a friend, you have heard this before, I didn't make it up). I can be friends with hot chicks if I'm not attracted to them (and looks are only the catalyst to attraction, not the end). HOWEVER, if a guy is still trying to be friends after you've been BF/GF and had a physical relationship (however you define that) then chances are (read: FOR SURE) he just wants to hook up again. Or, he maybe really does like/love you and wants to be together again, but he certainly doesn't JUST want to be friends.
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