Because I'm “too smart”

by SS

Apparently not everyone enjoyed hearing about my rendezvous with A. I, however, am pretty entertained by the fact that I somehow got to meet a cool guy through my anonymous blog. Definitely wasn't expecting that.

I do have to admit that I was little nervous about meeting him, though. In fact, I held off telling him that I was going to be in his neck of the woods until almost the last minute. I kind of liked the mystery of this whole thing, you know. Having this handsome stranger that I've never met posting on my blog. My concern was that if I met him, a lot of that mystery would be gone. I mean, yeah, we'd seen multiple pictures of each other on facebook, but you know it's never the same as seeing someone in real life and having an actual conversation instead of just emails and texts. I mean, what if they have an annoying voice? What if they can't stop talking about themselves? What if you just don't click? You never know!

But in the end I couldn't resist. Much like I couldn't resist adding him on fb in the first place. Well, let me tell you, I wouldn't have bothered with either of these anonymity-compromising actions if he didn't look so damn good in all his pictures. Call me superficial, but hey, that's all you have to go on in the very beginning. If anything, I was concerned that he would be way out of my league in the looks department. Which was kind of intimidating. But I decided I didn't care. I decided that if this guy is going to be posting on my blog, I wanted to meet him. And he did not disappoint. Ladies, I am sorry, but you're just going to have to use your imaginations on this one.

So yeah, he was easy to talk to. Sometimes I tend to take myself too seriously and so I appreciate someone who is laidback and able to see the lighter side of things. His outlook on life was also quite refreshing. I didn't sense any of the usual underlying bitterness about being single that seems all too common amongst us “older” singles.

I do need to tell you something that he left out. I had just started driving down the road after our lunch when he called me. He's like, “Soooo?” Me: “Huh?” Him: “Tell me.” Me: “Uh, I don't know what you're talking about.” (I promise I wasn't being coy. I really didn't know what he wanted me to tell him.) Him: “Would you date me? I mean, if we lived in the same town, do you think you'd date me?” At this point I think I pretty much just start laughing. Because really, I don't think any guy's ever come out and asked me straight up if I would date him. Usually, the guy just keeps asking you out until eventually you say no or else he loses interest, right? But yeah, I guess A and I have a kind of unique situation. So it was a legit question. Just unexpected.

Back to the conversation. Me: “Well, uh, I mean, I only talked to you for like an hour. It's hard to. . .” Him (pretty sure he's laughing at me by this point): “I'm not asking if you'd marry me! Just if you think you'd date me.” Me (probably flustered): “Uh, yeah, I'd go out with you again. I had fun.” At which point he launches into his compliment shower which you already got to experience in his blog post. And which hopefully made none of you puke. As for me, it pretty much made my night after a ridiculously long and stressful day yesterday. So thanks, A. :)

Back to the conversation again. Eventually he gets to: “I know why you're still single!” Me: “And why is that?” Him: “Because you're too smart. It's intimidating to guys.”

Okay, single ladies, raise your hand if you've ever been told that you're still single because guys are probably just intimidated by you. For being too smart, too together, too beautiful, too whatever. I'm guessing I'm not alone.

I'm not trying to discredit A's observation here. I guess I'm just trying to understand what this intimidation thing really even means. I know it can be real. But how real? And how common is it? When asked (especially if asked by a girl), I think a lot of guys will say they wouldn't let a smart/successful/whatever girl intimidate them. They would say they liked the challenge of trying to keep up with her. They would say they want their girl to fulfill her dreams as much as possible. But how many of these guys really mean it? I'm sure these guys are out there, but I think they're hard to weed out. Maybe you could all wear signs or something? That would really help us out a lot.

One last thing. I have a “weird obsession”??! Hahaha. That totally makes it sound like I collect cats or have a strange addiction to the Home Shopping Network or something. Just to clarify to the readers, it's a professional obsession. Some may call it crazy/dangerous, but I get paid good money to do something that I totally love. What more could I want? And it kicks ass. Hmph.

In the meantime, A, if you do feel up for the challenge, you're more than welcome to come out and crash my "hot, smart, and successful" east coast life. ;)