...it happened in a small Cantina...

Ladies and gentlemen, I have met StillSingle. I told her I was going to write about it, and maybe she will from her perspective too.

It was a simple encounter, no big deal, but since she invited me to participate on her blog, I figured if given the chance, I had to take it. I'm SO glad I did.

We met at a little Mexican food place and had some lunch. We talked the WHOLE time, which is always nice - nothing worse than hanging out with a person who can't hold up their end of a conversation. It was very natural, she is a very easy person to talk to - 1 point. I don't know if we flirted or anything like that, but it felt like maybe we were - it wasn't forced at all so it may or may not have occurred - so, being able to act naturally on a "date" - 1 point. Maybe it was So natural because it wasn't really a date, date. Who knows, all I know is we could have talked for hours if we'd had time. Physical attraction for me was definitely there. SS has a smokin little body (no disrespect ladies, it's just true) and she is very attractive - even better than her pictures, and those are pretty good - 1 point. I had to be VERY deft in checking her out, given the recent posts about boob-staring, and I think I did ok - she really is very attractive so I might have gotten caught lingering just a little too long. If she did catch me, she didn't let on, so thanks SS! :-D Now whether or not she was attracted to me, she'll have to tell you if she wants, it won't change my assessment one bit either way. Oh, and she actually ate her lunch, good sign that she's not afraid to just be herself (and the food is really good at this place) so - 1 point. I'm not sure what else I can give her points for???

After our lunch, I couldn't help but think, "Why is she still single?!?!?!" Ironic, eh? And the only thing I can come up with is she intimidates guys because she has SO much going for her (and she lives in a place with such a small population of LDS guys that the challenge is magnified 100x). I don't know that she and I would be dating even if we didn't live 2500 miles apart, I don't like to assume anything, but this kind of woman is SO attractive, not just physically but intellectually as well. I mean no amount of hotness can make up for lack of personality, and here is a woman that seemingly has it all?!?! Granted, we only hung out for an hour but I was impressed. I hope none of you are puking yet because I'm being overly complimentary or anything, I'm just giving my raw, unfiltered impressions. SS is a fantastic girl with everything going for her. She has one weird obsession (which we talked about a lot, and I find fascinating but in no way want to take part in ;-) ), which I won't divulge in case it gives away who she is, but even that isn't a deal-breaker, really. So overall, I'd reiterate my statement from my original post - the LDS guys in her area that aren't beating down her door to date her, are CRAZY!

It takes a rare guy to be OK with having a woman in his life who is smarter and possibly more successful than himself. It's a rare guy who's ego doesn't get in the way of a great relationship because he isn't the "provider" for his GF/wife, whatever. For me, I look for that - I look for a person who can challenge me intellectually (not that I'm Einstein, but I like to TALK and talk about things that are interesting and happening in the world, etc.) and doesn't NEED me to provide for her! I will totally do my part, but the "need" factor ruins things for me, perhaps more on this in another post... In my opinion and for me, that allows things to be much more natural and organic as the relationship grows, rather than trying to force something because of pre-conceived societal or religious norms.

I will admit after all of that, that there is a certain level of intrigue knowing who SS is and having met her that makes her all the more attractive - the little bit of mystery makes it SO fun. Thanks for going to lunch with me SS, I enjoyed it thoroughly!!! Hope we can do it again sometime on your turf. :-)